Q: I just met a great guy, and we have great chemistry together. Here's the problem: He says he's not interested in dating, just wants great sex and to be friends. I am now feeling used, but I think he could be the one. Why won't he commit and at least try dating me? What's wrong with him?
A: There appears to be nothing wrong with him. This "great guy" did his part. He was upfront, honest, and direct about what he wants. If that's not what you want, then why are you sticking around?
Unless you want to take on a lifelong project, he is not "the one." And if you really want to make yourself available to finding "the one," I suggest some therapy to find out why you desperately cling something that cannot be rather than finding something that can.
-- Greg Cason, PhD
