Long-Term Relationships: Who Took My Sex Life?

I know you’ve seen them.

They’re everywhere, walking hand-in-hand down the street (at least in the gay sections of your town), inviting you over to their fabulous townhouse for elegant dinners or setting you up with one of their single friends. They’re the couple you love to hate, because they seem to have it all: security, companionship, a real home and--most of all--each other.

I know a gaggle of them myself, and readily admit I’ve envied these couples more than once. One such dynamic duo—let’s call them “J & J”—has been together for a decade. They live way out West, and their own brand of domestic bliss includes a 3,500 square foot house, heated pool and glorious mountain views. They know their neighbors and drive fabulous convertibles. Being a long-time New Yorker, I’m completely smitten with their lifestyle.