Who do you turn to for help in a personal crisis? Do you have a must-see therapist, energy healer or life coach to get you through life’s rough patches? Finding that support can be essential when it comes to leading a happier, healthier and more empowered life, so we asked Joel Readence, CPC, ELI-MP, Life and Executive coach, to tackle some of our questions. Here are some excerpts from that conversation (watch for Part 2 coming soon):
Fear. It’s fear of failure. Fear of judgment. Fear of success. In the gay community, so many of us grow up turning ourselves into what I call life contortionists. We turn into what others wanted us to become, what society or our parents or peers or teachers wanted us to be. This causes us problems later on in life, because you have such an external focus that you don’t spend the time to turn inward, and answer your own life’s questions and find out what you really want to be doing. So it’s about overcoming fears and really spending the time with yourself, and not being afraid to be alone and figure out what you want in your life.
ShoutOutHealth: What can be done about these fears?
So the vast majority of the time, the fears we’re grappling with are self-induced, and the vast majority of the time they’re not based in reality. A lot of people plunge themselves into the future and imagine the worst possible outcome, instead of staying focused in the present and asking what will make me happy, and what are the small steps I can take that are easily digestible and take me forward in the direction I want to go.