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01/02/2014

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This actually happened to me the other night on a first dinner date, talking about our past relationships and whatnot. He told me he was POZ in a simple easy manner. I'm negative in my status. It made me ask him out again and to get to know him better!!

wow thats pretty cool, i agree, its just part of reality and no reason to not date someone, i dont mind using condoms at all

I agree with the other two guys. My partner told me he was pos on the second date. I respected him even more and it made me more interested in him. I guess because he was honest with me I really liked that about him. We have been together for a year now. We just use condoms.. It's cool :)

Phil u rock bro :)

Who has been rejected for sex on a first date because you asked the other persons HIV status?Even after the understanding, that there would be sex on the first date.But always, one never needs to explain why you dont want to have sex with a potential sexual partner,and others should never ask.Just remember there no excuse for a lack of courtesy.Because kindness is really all that we have.

hey mike, totally agree on the kindness thing, well said, i guess the less big deal you make out of this, the easier it is, if u love someone u will work it out, i know a lot of couples who are pos and neg, its not an issue, they love each other u know?

Even after the understanding, that there would be sex on the first date.But always, one never needs to explain why you dont want to have sex with a potential sexual partner,and others should never ask.Just remember there no excuse for a lack of courtesy.

hey mike, totally agree on the kindness thing, well said, i guess the less big deal you make out of this, the easier it is, if u love someone u will work it out, i know a lot of couples who are pos and neg, its not an issue, they love each other u know?

Looks like he has great legs! People say mean thigns about him but he is one of the best actors around. People need to lay off the remarks about how he looks.

I gauge each situation uniquely, and
the status question seems to take care of itself...

As a long-term HIV positive man that was diagnosed in 1992, I always find it easier to disclose early on in the conversation rather than wait until the second or third date. It removes the elephant out of the room, and creates space to actually get to know each other.

I used to hold off on disclosing, but for me, getting it out of the way is much easier. Back before the meds came out that make HIV more manageable, I felt like a diseased pariah. That is no longer the case.

Disclosure is useful in dating and non-dating situations. It helps eliminate stigma and shame. I love hearing what my dating partner has to say about HIV, safer sex practices. There still isn't a cure for AIDS, but I find having a dialogue about it brings me closer to the person I am getting to know.

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