A: You are absolutely right that she should be asking you about your sex life. It shouldn't be your responsibility to bring it up but, nice as she is, it doesn't sound like she's asking enough questions to thoroughly take care of you. But you can help her! You might say something such as, "I feel fine but would you please test me for STDs? I know that there are a lot of things out there that I might be vulnerable to."
Or, if that's too much, you could try something more subtle, like, "I'm dating someone new, is there anything I should worry about these days?" (hopefully she will pick up the hint). If all else fails you might try something like, "What is syphilis?" to initiate the conversation.
But the botton line is, you should not feel embarrassed or ashamed. You are smart to think about it and want your doctor to think about it, too! Good luck. -- Susan Ball, MD