Q: Ok, I have a small penis. But I am so tired of being rejected after having sex with guys because I’m not hung. It pisses me off because people tell me
‘oh, that can't be true,’ and that I'll find someone someday when the
truth is that I know I won't. I get rejected all the time! Everyone has porn stars on the brain and I can't complete. What do you think I should do?
A: Penis size is a form of power in the gay male community and used in every way from pushing porn flicks to humiliating each other. Small size is also often a secret told only in therapy when men openly talk about dating woes.
Being rejected repeatedly has left you feeling defeated, so it’s time to build some success. You have several options: 1) Find someone who likes small penises; 2) Find someone who likes something else about you; 3) Go solo.
find someone who likes small penises, pre-screen. Take out a personal
ad or look on the internet sites. Don’t hide your dick. Be specific
about who you are and what you have, but be general about what you
seek. Don’t be defensive, show your best side. To widen your pool of
potential suitors, you may want to develop other things such as your
mind, body, or sexual techniques. When it comes to sex, gay men can be pretty penis-focused, but beautiful packaging can make a
small gift quite meaningful.
Lastly, if you don’t want to through all
that trouble, work on being OK with being alone. In any case, make
peace with yourself and your body. There are websites such as
www.measurection.com that give support for men struggling with this
issue. Your feelings of frustration are understandable, but don’t let a
more difficult path keep you from making a valuable journey. And one
more thing—try to let go of the anger you have for those people who’ve
rejected you. Their minds and hearts appear to be much smaller than any
of your perceived shortcomings.
-- Dr. Greg Cason, PhD